11. The worst kind of grave.

Someone said once that fear is the worst kind of grave, because it buries one alive. It is true. Fear can easily motivate us to fight, but as well it can paralyze us. People are very often scared of losing something or scared of failure. Fear of losing something mostly drives us to fight for it, to try to solve the problem, when the fear of failure stops us before getting from life more than we already have. In my entire life, I’ve met a lot of people with different stories and different view at some things. One friend of mine had problems with his girlfriend. He was scared that she can leave him with broken heart. So what he did? He did everything he could to make her stay. He was trying to change himself after she told him why she’s considering ending of this relationship. Fear of losing his love became so strong that he couldn’t resist to fight for it. Fighting was better than just sitting in a corner waiting for the situation to be clear. Actually, in that particular case he as well could do nothing. She left him, because it was too hard for him to stay someone she wanted him to be. He had hope that mentally broke him more than if he would give up. He wasn’t scared of failure, he wanted to try for almost every cost. But on the other hand, my mom had a colleague at work who wanted to change her life. She was working for the lowest salary possible, with an aspiration to have big house with bigger garden. To achieve it, it was necessarily to change the job, to improve some skills… She didn’t do any of these. Why? Because she was afraid that if she quit the current job, she will stay with nothing. At the moment, she’s living with her sister’s family and working part-time as a cashier at the petrol station. Moreover, she’s depressed. We should be a bit fearless, because fear won’t help us to achieve our goal. Fear of losing something we already have will drive us to hard, while fear of failure will make us give up before we even start. We can’t be fearless, but we have to overcome our fears somehow.